Week Thirteen Baby Bump Update

Welcome to Week 13!

13 Weeks

13 Weeks Dress

I have to be honest, there hasn’t been a lot of changes from Week 12 to Week 13, as you can see from my pics below:

12 vs 13 Dress

Symptoms:   Luckily I’m still feeling really great.  I have times during the day in which I feel really tired, physically, and I need to sit more often.  Fortunately, I have very understanding students and co-workers who have been super sweet to me.  I’m still going to bed fairly early.  Friday and Saturday nights I stayed up to almost 9:00pm, so there’s a victory: one for me and one for Michigan State over the Oregon Ducks!

Changes to My Body:  Still no weight gain, but I will tell you it doesn’t feel that way.  I feel as though I’m on the verge of developing a visual bump in the next two or three weeks.  My clothes are fitting a little bit differently, but I think that’s due to a few over-indulgences in the carb realm as well as a slight reduction to the intensity of my workouts.

Weight Gain: None

Workouts:  I took a break from doing strength training this week and focused mainly on my morning walks.  Mentally, I just wasn’t into hitting the gym.  I went back this morning for the first time for a low body workout and I feel great!   Here’s what I did:

2nd Semester Low Body

Cravings:  Root beer, berries, and pretzel chips.  I’m finding my “Ohhhh that sounds good!” brain goes more towards salty treats than sweet.  Don’t get me wrong; I can eat the mess out of some sugary goodness.  There are some truly sweet women at work who have taken me under their wings since finding out I’m pregnant.  Last week, I was presented with this plate of heavenly goodness:

Turkish Delights

I somehow managed to bring a piece of that cake home to Dan.

Aversions: None! #Winning

Overall I’m Feeling:  Eager.  I am excited that I finally was able to share our amazing news with our loved ones.  We are planning on a trip to Michigan for Thanksgiving, which will be the first time seeing most of our family since the spring, and I could not be more excited!!

Purchases:  I ordered a onesie that I thought was perfect for my husband.  He’s an absolute XBOX fanatic!  Player 3

It’s a 0-3 month size, so I think we’ve discovered the “coming home from the hospital” outfit.

In other baby-related shopping, my mom and I went to Barnes and Noble to snoop around for a bit, and I picked up the next book in the “What to Expect” series: What to Expect in the First Year.

What to Expect First Year

I also wanted to look for a book for my husband.  He’s been so incredibly supportive during my pregnancy, and I know that he will me an amazing father.  The more general knowledge that we both have about what life will be like when we bring home Baby Ferrari, the better parenting team we will be.  I ended up finding him a book that appealed to both his sense of humor and desire to be as educated and prepared for baby:

Caveman

Caveman’s Guide to Baby’s First Year (via Goodreads)

Congratulations! You’re a father. Now what?

The follow-up to the hysterical bestselling Caveman’s Pregnancy Companion.
 
You managed to survive pregnancy without getting hit in the face by a blunt projectile hurled from your wife’s sling. Now the birth of your baby has ushered in a bewildering phase where your crude, uncivilized, and underdeveloped ways will surely be put to the test. Offbeat and humorous but full of useful tips, Caveman’s Guide to Baby’s First Year will lead you from a Fatherhood Aptitude Test to the 10 Commandments for Cro-Magnon Fathers to a Yoga Party (quasi-erotic yoga poses designed to reduce stress and stimulate the body). Along the way you’ll find candid advice on all topics, from the mechanics of breastfeeding to baby proofing the home to instructions for toys even a caveman could make himself.  So if you’ve been wondering what to do now that best thing that ever happened to you happened, leading to an anxiety-ridden life of no sleep, no sex, and more time picking out formula than ordering beer, fear no more! There have been quite a few advances since you first stepped out of your cave (vaccinations, infant massage, and baby sign language to name a few) and it’s all here, accompanied by charts, diagrams and other illustrations straightforward enough for you to get your Paleolithic head around.  

What I’m Reading:I noted earlier this week that I’ve been reading Secrets of the Baby Whisperer and how much I’m enjoying it.

I’ve continued to read about setting up flexible structures and how to approach a crying baby.  I know there are a million different philosophies on both topics, and each parent will make the best decision for their child, and I’m far from an expert about parenting, but I appreciate the gentle and humane methods of viewing parenting and your baby that Tracy Hogg presents.

Secrets of the Baby Whisperer

August Goals

It took me awhile to come up with my goals for August because I knew that despite the roll I was on, both planning and reading-wise, my schedule would be changing quite a bit.  It would be unrealistic for me to expect to maintain either levels of productivity.  With that being said, I was able to come up with three goals for the three major areas of my life.  I really did take the time to ensure that they were S.M.A.R.T. goals, which isn’t something I always do.

smart-goal-photo2

Reading Goals for August:

1.  Read daily for a minimum of either 30 minutes or 50 pages.

2.  Complete five full novels – (20 nonfiction articles = 1 novel).

3.  Write a review for each of the novels (nonfiction article sets) I complete.

4.  BONUS: Daily, read two articles my friends/colleagues share with me (either via email or Facebook).

Professional Goals for August:

1.  Convert my text notes from the previous year into Evernote.

2.  Create departmental meeting documents

  • Individual Meeting Form
  • Monthly Meeting Agenda (department-specific)
  • Create individual meeting schedule for the 1st quarter

3.  Create a database of articles to read for our PLC time

Personal Goals for August:

1.  Create weekly dinner menus the week in advance – preferably by Sunday.

2.  Create weekly shopping list based upon the menu created.

3.  Find an outside bookclub to attend

  • Meetup.com
  • Local libraries
  • Barnes and Noble(?)

4.  BONUS: Family Budget

  • Update budget daily – easily done on Quickens
  • Create and maintain a travel budget/savings

Big Little Lies Review

19486412(Summary via Goodreads) Madeline is a force to be reckoned with. She’s funny and biting, passionate, she remembers everything and forgives no one. Her ex-husband and his yogi new wife have moved into her beloved beachside community, and their daughter is in the same kindergarten class as Madeline’s youngest (how is this possible?). And to top it all off, Madeline’s teenage daughter seems to be choosing Madeline’s ex-husband over her. (How. Is. This. Possible?).

Celeste is the kind of beautiful woman who makes the world stop and stare. While she may seem a bit flustered at times, who wouldn’t be, with those rambunctious twin boys? Now that the boys are starting school, Celeste and her husband look set to become the king and queen of the school parent body. But royalty often comes at a price, and Celeste is grappling with how much more she is willing to pay.

New to town, single mom Jane is so young that another mother mistakes her for the nanny. Jane is sad beyond her years and harbors secret doubts about her son. But why? While Madeline and Celeste soon take Jane under their wing, none of them realizes how the arrival of Jane and her inscrutable little boy will affect them all.


My Review of Big Little Lies by Liane Moriarty

“Helicopter parents. Before I started at Pirriwee Public, I thought it was an exaggeration, this thing about parents being overly involved with their kids. I mean, my mum and dad loved me, they were, like, interested in me when I was growing up in the nineties, but they weren’t, like, obsessed with me…Mothers took their mothering so seriously now. Their frantic little faces…Ponytails swinging. Eyes fixed on the mobile phones held in the palms of their hands like compasses.”

The world of helicopter moms is one that I am familiar with because of my profession.  I’ve been lucky enough that my teaching career has not brought any petitions to expel students across my desk, but then again, it hasn’t featured any vodka-doused Trivia Night fundraisers either.  I found myself intrigued because this triptych-formatted novel connected to me in various ways, no matter if it was through the insecure single-mother, the overly aggressive, sarcastic head-of-a-blended-household, or the mom whose outward appearance to perfectly coasting through life made people wonder, “how does she do it all?”  I’m not a mother, yet I saw myself in each one of these women, and that is the true gift of an author.

“Every day I think, ‘Gosh, you look a bit tired today,’ and it’s just recently occurred to me that it’s not that I’m tired, it’s that this is the way I look now.”

“If she packaged the perfect Facebook life, maybe she would start to believe it herself.”

When I first began reading Big Little Lies, I didn’t know where the plot lines would take me or how they would intersect with one another.  The one commonality between Jane, Celeste, and Madeline was that they had children stating out kindergarten in the same classroom.  How typical their experiences must be for all the parents around the world.  The fear and insecurity of properly raising children, the hopes that the choices that they made are worth the grief they will put their spouses and children through, and withstanding the judgmental looks and commentary from other parents and well-meaning meddlers.  As the stories began to play out, and the relationships between the three mothers developed into a friendships, their truths began to surface.  It was a natural progression, and the reader became another trusted figure.  We too had to earn the trust to be let into the turmoil that motivated each woman to either act, react, or reflect.  And it’s this organic development that makes the characters believable and one that you can empathize with.  This is one of Moriarty’s greatest gifts: creating characters who are tainted, yet you want to see them succeed.  They are redeemable.

“Your inferiority was right there on display for the world to see.”

“All conflict can be traced back to someone’s feelings getting hurt, don’t you think?”

The tone is quickly established by Moriarty’s structural choices.  This story is told by direct narration, but also through clips of interviews conducted by local police detectives.  By switching back and forth in tenses, the reader is given glimpses into the conclusion of the conflicts, but is continually given tidbits as to how to determine their opinion.  Additionally, the sarcasm and flippancy shown by the parents on both sides of the conflict add to the authenticity of the plot.

“They say it’s good to let your grudges go, but I don’t know, I’m quite fond of my grudge. I tend it like a little pet.”

“Stick with the nice boys…bad boys don’t bring you coffee in bed, I’ll tell you that for free.”

Ultimately, I loved this novel.  The combination of humor and tragedy created an experience for the reader that brought the characters to life.  The characters were both ridiculous and humane.  It’s an easy read that makes you want to turn the page to see where these conflicts are going to have to go for resolution.  Intrigue found on a kindergarten playground is rare, but Moriarty pulls it off.

 


Other books by Liane Moriarty:

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