The Most “First Time Mom” Moves I’ve Made

The amount of nervous moments that a new mom goes through within the first few months of their child’s life cannot be measured in numbers, but in restless nights, tenth second guesses, and Google searches attempting to diagnose the newest noises and reactions.  God knows that I’ve had to put my phone down after working myself into umpteen million frenzies.  Thank goodness I always have my mom as a sounding board and therapist for those moments when I’ve lost sight of what is normal and what is unjustified paranoia.  These past (almost) four months have been a series of exercises in reigning it in when common sense isn’t so common.  But hey!  I’m a first time mom!  I’m allowed a few…many…TONS of freak outs.  Here is a list of some of the more first-timey moments I’ve caused/experienced since March 22nd.

  1. Hear the baby crying throughout his nap as well as when he isn’t even home.
  2. Check on the napping baby no less than every five minutes.  (See #1 for reason why)
  3. Staying awake the entire night to watch the baby sleep because I’ve convinced myself that he will smother himself in the shit show of a swaddling I attempted.
  4. Questioning the installation of my son’s car seat base even after it was checked and approved by the local fire station experts.
  5. Taking my son from another adult to burp him because apparently I’m the only one who knows how to properly pat a baby’s back.
  6. Sit in the backseat of the car next to my son during a 20 minute trip because I was afraid he would get lonely.
  7. Pack three outfit changes, three full bottles, two pacifiers, a swaddler sleep sack, two burp cloths, twelve diapers, a full pack of wipes, and baby powder for a two-hour visit at my mom’s house.
  8. Keeping a three foot protective radius around the baby to keep the dog back while my son is playing on the floor.
  9. Rocking a sleeping baby an extra 10, 20, 30 minutes just because he is so precious.
  10. Cry silent tears of love and gratitude for this little miracle in our lives.

Welcome July

Happy 1st of July! 

I am really excited to begin this new month.  It’s going to be the craziest and busiest month for us because we have so many friends and family members who are coming to meet our son, Cliff.  How blessed are we that many people love us enough to take time out of their schedules for us.  Thank goodness Cliff has been working on his selfie faces because I’m sure there will be plenty of picture taking and memory making!

June was an interesting month for us, and went out like a bang…literally.  Here are the highlights:

  • I spoke at my school’s graduation ceremony and watched my first group of students walk across the stage.
  • Dan wrapped up the school year and started his summer vacation.  It’s been great having all three of us home during the day.
  • I joined Bailey’s Gym to help get me closer to my pre-baby body.  I forgot how much I enjoyed working out in a legit gym.  The atmosphere inspires me to push myself more than when I’m at home.
  • Dan celebrated his first ever Father’s Day.  I wish I could have done more to express how much Cliff and I love him and what a phenomenal father he is.
  • I attended a week-long Advanced Placement Literature conference and got SOOOO inspired!  I have been developing my new courses and reading/rereading books like a curriculum planning-aholic.
  • Dan and I celebrated our 6th wedding anniversary by watching “Hail, Caesar!” and eating a delicious dinner at home.  #NewParents
  • Two wonderful young ladies that graduated a few years ago came over to visit, and it was nice catching up with them.
  • Cliff also had his 3-month appointment and got a solid bill of healthy from his pediatrician.  We are working on his sleeping at night because it has been fluctuating lately.  The doctor suggested that he may be having some digestive issues because she noticed a pattern between the pace and quantity of his eating habits and his poor sleeping sessions.  She suggested some Mylicon, and that has made a huge difference already!

NOT my baby =)

What’s In Store for July

July is going to be hectic but in a good way.  Just because we will be entertaining friends and family doesn’t mean that I don’t have goals to keep up with.

Books/Reading & Curriculum Planning:

I want to review the books that I have included in my curriculums for this upcoming school year.  I have read all of them before, but not necessarily used them for direct instruction.  Also, with teaching a section of Advanced Placement Literature, I will need to revamp my teaching strategies to support a new way to analyze and write about the texts they will be studying.

One of the strategies that I took away from my week-long conference was to give students a specific task for their reading that qualifies under a “Seek and List” title.  For example: Read the poem, “Groceries” by Cathy Smith Bowers, and create a list of similes and/or metaphors for things that are damaged.  Then, choose two and explain how and why the author used these devices to create tone.

Goal: Review the following books & create “Lists”

  • The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald
  • The Absolute True Diary of a Part-Time Indian by Sherman Alexie
  • The Scarlet Letter by Nathaniel Hawthorne

Health and Wellness:

New moms have a difficult standard to live up to when they’re trying to lose the baby weight.  I don’t like the term “get back” your body because that assumes that there’s a loss, a void, a deficit when you don’t have the same physique after having a baby.  A woman’s body is put through total trauma to carry and deliver a new life, and it should be handled with tenderness and love.  As a culture, we are too violent with our expectations that women should “snap back” and quickly.  EVERY SINGLE aspect of your life changes once you become a parent or add another sibling to the pack, so why stress about having a different body?  That’s not to say that there is anything wrong with wanting to be healthy and in shape, or ever aspire to fit back into your old wardrobe; I am someone who has focused on that specific goal now that I’ve had my son.  The difference is that I don’t demand it to happen before it’s time, or set unrealistic expectations.  I work out every day, true, but I also did that before and during my pregnancy.  I slowly built my cardio and strength training routines back up, slowly and carefully.  I am not back to my fitness level, but I am not beating myself up about it.  Some women may achieve their goals sooner than me, some may take longer.  Just like all pregnancies, like all babies, each woman’s journey is specific to them and shouldn’t be compared to others’.  With that being said, I do have a goal for July to help me get closer to my ultimate goal.

July Goal: Workout daily & fit into my black and khaki capri pants.

Ultimate Goal: Workout daily & fit into my old wardrobe.

*Notice I don’t have a weight or pant size goal.  I just want to fit into the clothes that I used to wear.

Family:

Clearly, it is going to be a full month for the Ferrari family!  My ultimate goal is to enjoy each and every moment that we will get to spend with our out-of-town guests.

Weeks 29 and 30 Pregnancy Update

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Happy New Year!  I hope you’re enjoying the newness of 2016.  I’ve managed to make it back to work without crying, cursing, or even devising an escape route home, so I would call that a successful transition from vacation to work mode.  In other New Year’s news, I decided to change up the way in which I made resolutions, focusing more on what I wanted to do more or less of as opposed to making grand statements that would most likely diminish before February.

In book news, I made a Goodreads 2016 Reading Challenge goal of 30 books, and I’ve completed two books I started in 2015 (so I guess they count?) and 2 I started in 2016: Fates and Furies by Lauren Groff and Murder on the Orient Express by Agatha Christie.  The latest book that I started, literally this morning, is Gretchen Rubin’s The Happiness Project: OR Why I Spent a Year Trying to Sing in the Morning, Clean My Closets, Fight Right Read Aristotle, and Generally Have More Fun.  I started listening to Gretchen’s podcast, “Happier with Gretchen Rubin,” about three weeks ago and really enjoyed it.  I think she and I are very similar, especially after reading the “Getting Started” section of her book.  I am excited to dig further into this book and share my thoughts with you!

 


How far along? Currently 30 weeks!  The baby is the size of a butternut squash and weighs approximately 3lbs!  The video that updates the baby’s progress on a weekly basis said to anticipate the baby having a half-pound weight increase each week moving forward.

Total weight gain:  Enough to cook a proper baby boy.

Bump Alert: FULL alert!

30 Weeks

Maternity clothes? With the exception of a few t-shirts and workout tops (thanks for the loan, Dan), I am wearing 100% maternity clothing.  This week has been much easier on the wardrobe front because Florida has finally gotten itself together and is having a proper winter.  TGFLS – Thank God for Long Sleeves!

Stretch marks? Still moisturizing and still luckily stretch mark-free!

Sleep: Over the break, I slept A LOT! as in 10+ hours a day through my nightly slumber and naps.  I really enjoyed being given the luxurious freedom to nap.  I have so much respect for women who are pregnant and cannot do this.

Workouts: I walk every day and still have a 15,000 step-a-day goal with my Fitbit, and I do two or three strength training sessions per week.  I have dropped all weights when I do low-body exercises (squats, static lunges, sumo squats, curtsey lunges, mat work) and do everything with just body weight.  It’s still a great workout.

Best moment the week: I really liked my naps.

Food cravings: Nothing out of the usual.  I’m still all about the salty foods.

Labour signs: No!

Symptoms: Slightly swollen feet and dry skin around my tummy.

Belly button in or out? Still an innie despite the belly growth.

Wedding rings on or off: On.

Baby Stuff: My aunt gave me a gift certificate for Buy Buy Baby, so I ordered our changing mat and one cover, the mobile for over the crib, and the lamp from our registry.

Happy or moody most of the time: Happy and tired

Looking forward To: As much as I’m enjoying my students, I am looking forward to the weekend and sleep in!