Redefining Milestones

Any new parent will agree that it’s easy to feel guilt and pressure about our babies meeting and /or exceeding milestones. As my friend said, “it’s not a true trip to the pediatrician if you don’t leave feeling bad about something!”  Well, I can’t say that I don’t fall into the category of overly anticipatory parenting when it comes to what “experts” say my son should be doing by now, but I’m also not going to lose anymore sleep that I already don’t have if we are slightly above or below the mean. 

One way to help alleviate the stress of meeting milestones that every other baby is held to is to create a list of ones that my son has already met. Don’t be jealous if your three month old hasn’t quite the accomplished list. 

  1. Sent at least one outfit (pajamas included) to the stain-remover station in the laundry room for five consecutive days.
  2. Slept in a car seat (in a car and living room floor), rocker/recliner, swing, bouncer, couch, your bed, play mat. Bonus parenting points if he/she doesn’t actually make it to their crib. 
  3. Knows the difference between the crib at your house and the one at Grandma’s AKA selective sleeping. 
  4. Detecting the exact moment you bring out a fresh cup of coffee and novel, settling under a blanket, so they can wake up from their nap. 
  5. Simultaneously wanting a pacifier in their mouth, but pulling it out over and over and over and over, mostly resulting in crying (the baby, not the  parent)
  6. Screaming bloody murder in your ear while learning to use their voice. 
  7. Discovering the convenient handles Mom had installed to hang from her scalp. 
  8. Phantom Crying: the cries you hear even when your baby isn’t home. 

How many of these has your baby achieved?  Did your older kids reach them in time to make you feel like a good parent?

Welcome July

Happy 1st of July! 

I am really excited to begin this new month.  It’s going to be the craziest and busiest month for us because we have so many friends and family members who are coming to meet our son, Cliff.  How blessed are we that many people love us enough to take time out of their schedules for us.  Thank goodness Cliff has been working on his selfie faces because I’m sure there will be plenty of picture taking and memory making!

June was an interesting month for us, and went out like a bang…literally.  Here are the highlights:

  • I spoke at my school’s graduation ceremony and watched my first group of students walk across the stage.
  • Dan wrapped up the school year and started his summer vacation.  It’s been great having all three of us home during the day.
  • I joined Bailey’s Gym to help get me closer to my pre-baby body.  I forgot how much I enjoyed working out in a legit gym.  The atmosphere inspires me to push myself more than when I’m at home.
  • Dan celebrated his first ever Father’s Day.  I wish I could have done more to express how much Cliff and I love him and what a phenomenal father he is.
  • I attended a week-long Advanced Placement Literature conference and got SOOOO inspired!  I have been developing my new courses and reading/rereading books like a curriculum planning-aholic.
  • Dan and I celebrated our 6th wedding anniversary by watching “Hail, Caesar!” and eating a delicious dinner at home.  #NewParents
  • Two wonderful young ladies that graduated a few years ago came over to visit, and it was nice catching up with them.
  • Cliff also had his 3-month appointment and got a solid bill of healthy from his pediatrician.  We are working on his sleeping at night because it has been fluctuating lately.  The doctor suggested that he may be having some digestive issues because she noticed a pattern between the pace and quantity of his eating habits and his poor sleeping sessions.  She suggested some Mylicon, and that has made a huge difference already!

NOT my baby =)

What’s In Store for July

July is going to be hectic but in a good way.  Just because we will be entertaining friends and family doesn’t mean that I don’t have goals to keep up with.

Books/Reading & Curriculum Planning:

I want to review the books that I have included in my curriculums for this upcoming school year.  I have read all of them before, but not necessarily used them for direct instruction.  Also, with teaching a section of Advanced Placement Literature, I will need to revamp my teaching strategies to support a new way to analyze and write about the texts they will be studying.

One of the strategies that I took away from my week-long conference was to give students a specific task for their reading that qualifies under a “Seek and List” title.  For example: Read the poem, “Groceries” by Cathy Smith Bowers, and create a list of similes and/or metaphors for things that are damaged.  Then, choose two and explain how and why the author used these devices to create tone.

Goal: Review the following books & create “Lists”

  • The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald
  • The Absolute True Diary of a Part-Time Indian by Sherman Alexie
  • The Scarlet Letter by Nathaniel Hawthorne

Health and Wellness:

New moms have a difficult standard to live up to when they’re trying to lose the baby weight.  I don’t like the term “get back” your body because that assumes that there’s a loss, a void, a deficit when you don’t have the same physique after having a baby.  A woman’s body is put through total trauma to carry and deliver a new life, and it should be handled with tenderness and love.  As a culture, we are too violent with our expectations that women should “snap back” and quickly.  EVERY SINGLE aspect of your life changes once you become a parent or add another sibling to the pack, so why stress about having a different body?  That’s not to say that there is anything wrong with wanting to be healthy and in shape, or ever aspire to fit back into your old wardrobe; I am someone who has focused on that specific goal now that I’ve had my son.  The difference is that I don’t demand it to happen before it’s time, or set unrealistic expectations.  I work out every day, true, but I also did that before and during my pregnancy.  I slowly built my cardio and strength training routines back up, slowly and carefully.  I am not back to my fitness level, but I am not beating myself up about it.  Some women may achieve their goals sooner than me, some may take longer.  Just like all pregnancies, like all babies, each woman’s journey is specific to them and shouldn’t be compared to others’.  With that being said, I do have a goal for July to help me get closer to my ultimate goal.

July Goal: Workout daily & fit into my black and khaki capri pants.

Ultimate Goal: Workout daily & fit into my old wardrobe.

*Notice I don’t have a weight or pant size goal.  I just want to fit into the clothes that I used to wear.

Family:

Clearly, it is going to be a full month for the Ferrari family!  My ultimate goal is to enjoy each and every moment that we will get to spend with our out-of-town guests.

Due Date and Lists

Today is my due date, y’all!!!

I’ve been emotionally ready for this baby for awhile, but now that the nursery and baby furniture is prepped, we have moved into our new house, and I’m solidly on my maternity leave, he needs to pack his uterus bags and get-ta-movin’!

I’ve been implementing some home remedies for inducing labor, and tomorrow I have my 40-Week OB appointment, so hopefully I will receive some positive news that things are progressing towards welcoming our son.


Pregnancy Lists

There are as many lists of recommendations, rules, and what-to’s for pregnant women as there are new lives being welcomed into the world.  I’ve got my fair share pinned to various Pinterest boards.  They’ve been incredibly helpful as I’ve tried my best to be as prepared and conscious of all the best practices during pregnancy and once our little man arrives.  They inspired me to create my own set of lists, chronicling the last days of my pregnancy.  Here are some of the topics that I included:

  1. Things I’m looking forward to about being a mom
  2. Books we will read together
  3. Questions I’ve had about pregnancy
  4. Names that were on our list – boys and girls
  5. Items on our baby registries
  6. What I will miss about being pregnant
  7. What I WON’T miss about being pregnant
  8. Worries I’ve had
  9. Movies we will watch together
  10. “Firsts” I am looking forward to
  11. Outings we will go on
  12. Foods and drinks I enjoyed during pregnancy
  13. Things to record in the baby book
  14. Things I want to teach my son
  15. Songs on Baby’s iPhone playlist
  16. Hospital bag goodies
  17. Summer Bucket List
  18. New Baby Boy Tips
  19. Values I want to instill in my son
  20. Projects for the new house/nursery
  21. Toys/decor from our childhood that we will pass along
  22. Traditions to establish as a family
  23. Exercises I did during pregnancy
  24. Books/Blogs I read during pregnancy
  25. Special moments during pregnancy