I don’t know what is worse: pain or the anticipation of pain. Our fears can exaggerate an unpleasant situation into an ever-growing, always looming, all-consuming Dread Monster. And it can completely take over your every thought.
I have such an occasion to deal with today. I am confident in my decisions and subsequent actions, yet I know that today I will be called to the carpet, most likely I will be scolded, definitely judged, and the anxiety that has been building since learning about today’s meeting has been palpable.
If I didn’t learn how to cope, how to manage, how to deal I could literally let this apprehension consume me. I don’t profess to know all the answers, nor have I conquered the Dread Monster, but I do know how to put it all into perspective.
Helping to Maintain Before a Stressful Situation
1. That which does not kill me, makes me stronger.
Cliche? Yes. True enough. Definitely.
2. You’ve got Right on your side.
You may have to endure harsh words and uncomfortable feelings, but when you know that you did everything that should or could have been done, then you have the greatest tag team partner in the Royal Rumble that may be going down.
3. Accentuate the Positive
I’ve been running down a list, reviewing it several times Santa-style, of all the wonderful things that are cycloning around this one speck of a nothing. Just yesterday I had enough joy to suffocate the minuteness of today’s meeting.
4. You’re most likely not the only one who sees the whole picture.
Friends, family, coworkers, supervisors, etc all know who you are. They know your reputation. Sometimes protocol must be followed in order to get beyond the negativity. In order to satisfy the squeaky wheel, you have to give it a little bit of oil, but that doesn’t mean that the whole car should be overhauled. (That’s a terrible analogy, but it’s what I have on one cup of coffee) The bottom line is that you’re not going alone, your reputation and good name proceed you.
5. Nothing lasts forever
Today you may have to endure some uncomfortable moments, some harsh words, but that doesn’t mean that you won’t be able to get back up, dust yourself off, and go forward, continuing to do your damnedest to kick ass and be the superstar that everyone knows you to be.
It cannot be left unsaid that I also rely heavily on the power of prayer. It may not be for everyone, but truly it is the most effective strategy that I have in overcoming things that I know I cannot endure alone. I don’t pray for God to make the situation go away; I don’t pray for God to make me come out on top. I pray that God will give me the strength to endure, the wisdom to choose the right words, the tenderheartedness to be able to connect and overcome this situation with the people I am in conflict with, and the humility to accept my role in resolving our issue.